True confession-once I realized how much fun it was to talk on Facebook and at the salon about my bad first dates, I sort of started to look forward to them. Not that I would seek out ill-fitting Suitors mind you. I just knew that my friends and clients would be entertained. Of all my bad first dates, this one took the cake.
I arrived at the restaurant first and waited outside. I spotted him parking his white, American car and could tell from his swagger towards me, this gentleman was not “the one”. He had a Bluetooth in his ear as well as two phones on his gadget belt and the Khakis were ill-fitting. Tight, navy golf shirt, belt up too high on his waist, spiky hair gelled to the point of no motion, high testosterone. How did I end up in this position, you might ask? Doesn’t a Hipster girl screen out guys like this? When I hastily got back into internet dating the second time around, I forgot my basic rules, one being don’t have a meal as a first date. And he was my first date back on the market so, we sat down to eat.
Upon being seated, he did a chiropractic adjustment/back crack in the chair that was so violent I had to ask, “What was that? Are you OK?” and he proceeded to tell me that he was on his way to the Chiropractor after lunch. I took the bait, asked why. He asked if I knew the difference between Tennis Elbow and Golfers Elbow, which I did not. He has Golfers Elbow and went on to explain the intricacies and how hard it was for him to continue to play. Upon which I naively asked, “Maybe this is a dumb question but can’t you just switch arms?”. This was so offensive to him that he raised his voice and told me that that was like asking me if I can just switch hands to cut hair. “Well, I get your point but I don’t cut hair… I’m a Colorist.” Silence.
When it came time to order he asked me what kind of coffee I drink. I said, “I like Americanos, how about you?”. He said that he can only drink drip coffee now since getting the INTESTINAL PARASITE. Oh?
So, how would YOU respond my friends?
A) um, gross (change the subject)
B) I guess you should have a drip coffee
C) Tell me more!
Now, you know from my personality that of course, I chose C.
So, apparently he got an Intestinal Parasite and his main concern was how it affects your protein absorption. For muscle building. So he worked out extra-hard he explained and then, really-I swear, flexed his muscles for me and said, “I am still ripped though”.
As lunch went on he told me about his crappy childhood (mean Dad), his crappy divorce (took his money), his crappy last job (revolving door salesman, for real) and all the politics of having to “manage up” because of his crappy boss. After answering a few work calls he HAD to take during our date, he asked me if I minded him telling me all this and I said, “No, go on! My Mom is a Therapist.” What that has to do with anything I am not sure but it felt like the right thing to say.
Online dating is not for everyone. If you are very sensitive, easily offended or have your hopes up high with each date you may struggle. We all have so little time. There are hundreds and hundreds of potential candidates for you so it’s important to carefully screen from the get go.
Unless you are me and you want a good story.
Footnote-last I checked, he is still single.
And so was this guy. Go figure.
For tips on how not to date a clown, stay tuned for the pending entry, “On the 7 Types of Men You Will Meet Online”.